A Friend Is....

Recently I got a text from a friend asking me if I was 'okay'.  And after receiving this text, I began to think about what makes up a friendship and what makes a person a friend.  This is a concept that I have been struggling with a lot lately.  I am realizing that there are currently people in my life that  have not been very good friends...and that there are other people who have been great friends...and that I am having trouble distinguishing between the two.  But I am also realizing that I myself have shortcomings when it comes to being a friend.

So what is a friend?  Here is a breakdown of characteristics that most young people hope to find in a friend.  You can check out ReachOut.com for the rest of the list.

A friend is:

• someone who will support you no matter what
• someone you can trust and who won't judge you
• someone who won't put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings, but will show kindness and respect
• someone who will love you not because they feel they have to because you're their friend, but because they choose to
• someone whose company you enjoy and whose loyalty you can depend upon
• someone who will be there no matter what your situation is
• someone who is trustworthy and not afraid to tell you the truth, no matter how hard it is sometimes
• someone who can laugh when you laugh
• someone who will stick around when things get rough
• someone who makes you smile
• someone who can accept you for who you are, and just lend you an ear when you need to whine or complain
• someone who will cry when you cry
• someone who will give you room to change.

Here's a shout out to friends in general...no matter if you are five minutes away or five hours away.  I am sending my love.


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Treasure Troves and Coffee

Coffee Tuesdays are for exploring...and drinking white mocha lattes.  And today was no different.  We ended up downtown at Sault Realism on a jewelry hunt to find a locket.  I recently came into a small amount of money because of a certain birthday and very much wanted to treat myself to a present.  Sadly, I did not find the locket I've had my on (purple lilies with a Victorian screen over top); but, I did pick up a few business cards from the girl that makes them.

Check out wearableartbyjude.etsy.com!  There were a lot of cute handmade lockets made by Jude...plus many more made by various other Etsy artists.  Below are a few of my favorites.  I think I may have to start collecting these things.

 

 

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Nowhere to Go But Up!

For the last few weeks, I've really been in a sad mood.  But this week has definitely been the worst.  I failed at something really important and now I am struggling to redeem myself...and I feel I am failing even at that.

I'm not sure if I've ever felt this out of control of my life.  Everything seems to be speeding downhill; And, instead of being in the driver's seat, I am nothing but an onlooker on the side of the road.  I see a cliff, but I can't stop the car. 

The scariest part is that maybe secretly I want everything to hit rock bottom.  Because once a person hits rock bottom, THERE IS NOWHERE TO GO BUT UP!  And I really, really want things to start going back up.

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